“Whips and chains may break my bones…,” is often the corky visual that mainstream culture thinks of when picturing BDSM/Kink culture.
But that’s not the definition at all.
Many have come into my office seeking support or wanting to change this aspect of themselves completely because their desires conflict with what is considered “normal.”
These ‘abnormal’ feelings are scary and can bring about shameful thoughts and embarrassment.
You may be a teacher, police officer, or public servant interested in kink or desires to explore the fetish part of you.
But you live under the fear of what would happen if anyone found out.
You’re not satisfied sexually and wonder what will become of your current or future relationships if they learn of your kink and fetish interests.
It feels overwhelming… to the point that you’ve become avoidant of sex, as it’s difficult to become fully aroused without the accompaniment of leather, shoes, panties, crushing, uniforms… or whatever it is you fancy…
You want to explore this part of your sexuality but feel uncertain – especially with your current or future partner.
It’s easy to avoid sex and intimacy altogether.
Discouraged, you try to act as if everything is “okay” – but you know it isn’t… and it won’t be.
“Will they understand me? Will I be understood?” is the messaging that plays on repeat in your mind.
Human behavior isn’t abnormal. What should be made clear is that what you’re experiencing is natural and an extension of yourself.
The only guidelines are that it’s safe, consensual, fun – but, most importantly, legal.
Regardless of whether you’ve found yourself new to kink and fetish interests or a seasoned individual who finds themselves wanting to explore kink and fetish expressions, it’s essential to know that you are not alone.
You desire nothing more than to be understood… Although this seems difficult to navigate, know that we can help you.
Through therapy, we will examine ways to explore this part of yourself further and help you gain more profound meaning and insight into your sexual experiences… regardless of whether we see you individually or as a couple.
There is no judgment here!
The next step is to schedule a FREE 15-minute consultation.
We want to get to know you, answer any of your questions, and discuss setting up an initial appointment. We look forward to beginning our work together.
During our first session, we will meet and go over your goals – identifying the problem and other areas that could be impacting your life.
As a trained professional who is experienced working with individuals who desire to explore their kink and fetish orientation, we’re here to guide you through this process!
What you’re experiencing is more common than you’d think, but you will likely continue experiencing challenges if you continue trying to deal with these feelings independently.
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